Recently, Ms. Hudson received an invitation to join the Expert Network, which is an invitation-only membership. Within the Expert Network, Ms. Hudson was selected as a Distinguished Lawyer based on peer reviews and ratings, national recognition, and accomplishments achieved throughout her career.
During the course of my legal practice as a family law attorney, I have gained a perspective of marriage and divorce to which few are privy. Marriage (the institution) sometimes replaces Marriage (the relationship) as the goal of one or both parties. Interestingly, in these instances, those endorsing the institution rail that divorce is the devilish pariah that is destroying the fabric of society. The proponents of marriage as a relationship understand that divorce allows for the healthy disengagement of a non-existent or even toxic relationship.
Publicly, I have spoken on both marriage and divorce. Almost every time, there is at least one heckler in the crowd who says – “I can do it myself; what do I need you for?” My answer is usually the same: “If you needed a root canal, would you try to do it yourself?” The loss of any significant relationship is devastating. The loss of a marriage has been likened by many psychologists to death only without the closure of a funeral. Yet, at this juncture, circumstances and competing legal agendas require clear and well thought out decisions. In this sea of tumultuous change, the hiring of a professional team to create objectivity in the moment and make plans for the future becomes a necessity, not a luxury.
Time and again I meet with people who have chosen to “do it themselves.” In most instances they are sitting in my office because they have realized, too late, that the great deal they thought they negotiated without lawyers left them with no future and very little present. Once a divorce judgment is signed, for all practical purposes, it cannot be changed except under extraordinary circumstances. Every divorce case is complex and evolving even if the legal issues are streamlined. Attorneys are not “one size fits all.” Finding a professional who is qualified and who understand the goals and factors that contribute to the complexity of the case is THE most important decision made by a party. Prior to either a marriage or divorce, it is wise to consult a family law attorney to accurately assess your rights in making these momentous decisions.
For more information about marriage from the other side or to request a consultation, please contact me at: firstname.lastname@example.org or at: (561)472-0805 .
Lise L. Hudson was recently written up in the Boca Raton Observer’s November issue. She was profiled for helping clients navigate through divorce and other family issues.
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Those among us who are under the age of eighteen are enthusiastically careening toward the first week of June when freedom shall once again reign supreme. The school year ends and summer begins….officially. However, for the parents of these freed, tweeting, over-digitalized, virtual gamers, a space-time rift (known as a black hole) forms. So, in an effort to help maintain the real-time presence of being a “parent”, here are a few tips:
- Electricity is necessary to power all digital devices (including an iPhone);
- The digital devices eventually find their way home;
- There is electricity at home;
- Electricity costs money and flows in a current;
- The current can be interrupted………….. permanently;
- option one – have the child’s room established as a separate billing address by FP&L, or
- option two – go “off grid”;
- Once the current is interrupted – communication can be restored.
These above suggestions may save the lives of many unsuspecting parents.
However, in the event that more extreme measures are necessary, there are multiple locations throughout the Appalachian Mountains, the Poconos, or even the Everglades where there are no cell towers, Wi-Fi units, DSL lines, Cable, batteries, or even hot showers. These locations are called “camps”. Arrangements can be made prior to the conclusion of the school year for immediate transportation of the children to and from these “camps”. Most “camps” convene for the duration of the summer. Should your child require persuasion to attend, they can be lured onto any waiting camp bus with the sound of the “angry birds” soundtrack.
Being a parent requires collaboration– whether a parent is married, divorced, or single. Children are quite capable of attempting to emotionally or physically manipulate circumstances to get what they want. Children need to know that they are loved, and that there are limits to what is permissible and what is not. If both parents are available, both parents should actively be involved in drawing and enforcing boundaries for the children. Divorce should never be the excuse for failing to establish boundaries.
If you have questions about how to successfully parent in a divorce, paternity, or other court proceeding, please contact me at: email@example.com, or at (561)472-0805.
Over the last twenty-five years, I have had occasion to witness the demise of relationships that, in all likelihood, could have been saved. In an effort to educate those who may be willing to consider the idea of “trying again”, please note the following:
- Punching your fiancée’s father the night before the wedding may shorten the longevity of your future marriage;
- Giving your spouse a pamphlet from the local gym at your first wedding anniversary may have a chilling effect on the conjugal visit anticipated later that evening;
- Tweeting that your spouse is the reproductive product of a horse and a donkey may be misinterpreted by your true love;
- Dating while married usually accelerates the demise of “good will” amongst spouses;
- Cleaning out the joint bank accounts, secretly selling the car your spouse is driving, or slowly siphoning funds to an off-shore account in your sister’s name might make you a “person of interest” to the Federal government and your soon-to-be ex-spouse.
The above may be obvious; the truth however centers on the relationship itself. Marriage is an ever changing landscape that requires the focused commitment of each party involved. It not only requires a willing dedication to the relationship (not the institution), but a commitment to lovingly confront behaviors, feelings, or even emotional issues in oneself. This can be a daunting challenge but being emotionally healthy requires the honesty of each person about the other and about themselves. The current, socially accepted thought that each person can live in any way chosen and be married is deceptive and usually destroys the marriage ultimately. Conversely, however, confrontation can become abusive without the involvement of a qualified third party such as a marriage counselor to balance the emotions of the parties.
Divorce is not the inevitable end to marital relationships that seem broken. If the people involved are willing to participate in a process of identifying and addressing issues in themselves and in each other, the relationship can be preserved and will often strengthen. If one person is not willing to undertake this process, the relationship will not change because relationships do not “heal” themselves. It requires the parties involved to be willing to come together jointly that allows healing to take place. This, after all, is what marriage is all about.
If you have further questions or need further information on avoid needing a divorce lawyer, please contact me at:firstname.lastname@example.org or (561)472-0805.
Alimony: it’s a word that strikes fear into the heart of most divorced men and has been a sacrosanct right to many divorced woman. When discussed at cocktail parties or among polite acquaintances, it quickly divides a room and often destroys all enjoyable conversation; but what is alimony?
Alimony is the requirement of one spouse to support another after the end of the relationship. In the United States and most Western societies this requirement is primarily financial. The concept of alimony has existed for centuries, even millennia. While the methodology to calculate this support may differ in various Nations, the concept of support in and after a formal marital relationship is recognized globally with very few exceptions.
Since 2010, there have been significant efforts in Florida to change how and when alimony is awarded; all prior efforts have failed. This year may prove to be different. Once again, in the corridors of the State Capitol, hard core lobbying has been taking place to change §61.08 (Fla. Stat., 2011) – Florida’s alimony statute. The proponents of the “revolution” share disheartening stories of being “trapped” forever because they were ordered or agreed to pay life time alimony. The opponents share their deep dissatisfaction and discouragement about how their alimony awards did not provide enough or were too short to allow them to recover financially.
For the first time, the proponents of reform are working with the Family Law section of the Florida Bar to create a fair and balanced alimony reform bill. Those assisting with drafting these new measures have indicated that, more likely than not, an alimony guideline shall be utilized, much like the Florida child support guideline. However, there is also an indication that permanent or life time alimony shall be abolished. Taking a “wait and see” approach if you are considering divorce could have disastrous results.
If you have questions concerning alimony, divorce, or how your rights may be effected in the future, please contact me immediately at:email@example.com or (561)472-0805
A Civilized Divorce can be an expensive, agonizing, and lengthy process. Even the family pets become an issue over which acrimonious couples argue. However, now many people want to take a different path during this difficult time and are asking: “Isn’t there another way?”
Yes, there is.
A growing trend across the United States is something called the “collaborative divorce process”. This system was specifically designed for people who want divorce without WAR. The process works so that each party signs an agreement stating that each will work with their attorneys to peacefully and with integrity address the painful and difficult choices each is required to make instead of duking it out in the court room.
To begin this process, the parties each engage counsel who will work together to draft a collaborative agreement outlining how the process will work. The attorneys work together with the parties in a closed process where all necessary financial and other information is obtained, but remains confidential. With the help of counsel, each side of the “team” raises the issues about which they are concerned. The goal of the process is to encourage each party to openly discuss issues involving their children, their finances, and the loss of their relationship. Once all of the questions are answered, the parties and attorneys jointly work to create a written settlement agreement that will be filed in an uncontested proceeding and approved by a Judge.
The collaborative process is not an “all or nothing” process. If a party changes his or her mind they may end the collaborative process and choose the traditional route of litigation. However, at this juncture, BOTH PARTIES must hire new attorneys and begin a traditional case. This “loss” is the incentive to keep the parties motivated to work it out.
Should you have any further questions about the collaborative divorce process or simply have questions regarding how the law protects you in a divorce, please contact us at Hudson Family Law. AT HUDSON FAMILY LAW our Mission for twenty-five years has been to help our clients: RESOLVE, REBUILD AND RESTORE
While there are many new, complex, and dangerous issues facing this Nation, there are some that are profoundly the same. On Sunday, January 25, 2015, the New York Times reported an article on page one denoting that the Roman Catholic Church is re-examining its stance on divorce and whether a marriage, once made, is indissoluble. At the heart of this question is a discussion which is intrinsic to all of the great faiths of the world, spans many centuries, and has, in part, even spawned wars. There are many who hold dear the tenets of their faith and yet have been banned from practicing it because divorce is not recognized as a “viable option.” Florida unwittingly became a pioneer in the area of divorce when Henry Morrison Flagler was permitted to divorce his second wife by reason of her diagnosed insanity; something that was disallowed formerly. Previously neither Florida nor most other states permitted divorce unless “fault” (usually adultery) could be proven. These and other legislative policies were shaped by Judeo-Christian or faith based ideals.
On January 6, 2015 Florida became one of several states whose same-sex marriage ban was held unconstitutional. In light of the significant split by federal appellate courts regarding which unions shall constitute a “marriage”, the United States Supreme Court shall address the issue prior to the conclusion of its spring session in 2015. With this question squarely before the highest court of our Nation, it will be noteworthy to observe whether the tenets of faith continue to diverge with civil ideals. However, even when the dust has cleared from this highly emotionally judicial decision, the more difficult issue of divorce within the confines of certain faiths shall still remain. The question of obtaining a “religious divorce” has had a resurgence over the last decade. In the Catholic faith, it is provided by way of an annulment; in the Jewish faith it is provided by way of a Get, and although the Protestant faith has no formal outlet to address the issue, certain sects of Protestantism are providing their members with church based programs for help. As we venture into 2015 and beyond, marriage, divorce, parental identification, and many more core values of our society will be touched by the answers which are applied to the questions involving marriage and divorce. Finding a lawyer who can be of assistance with all of the issues can be a great relief. If you would like to know more, please contact me, Lise Hudson at Hudson Family Law; telephone: (561)472-0805 or on the web at: www.HudsonFamilyLaw.com.