In my last four articles, we have reviewed the top four mistakes that divorcing parties make prior to or during litigation. The discussion today is about the worst and most profound mistake made by parties during a divorce.

Florida is a state whose policies focus on children. It is one of the few states that constitutionally guarantees that parents are legally ensured of their right to parent; but what rights belong to their children?

Today, divorcing parents are required to take a “parenting” course endorsed by the judicial system subsequent to filing a petition for dissolution of marriage. It is an effort by the courts to attempt to deter the ping pong effect that occurs in most divorcing families. These courses are helpful but have not stemmed the tide of the incidence of parent alienation, Münchausen syndrome by proxy (MSBP or MBP), and other activities that are designed for one purpose – the emotional and sometimes physical abuse of a child.

Even if a divorcing parent’s actions do not rise to the level of the extreme behavior described above, all too often I will hear one or both parents speak in terms of the “right” that a child has to know about one spouse’s extra-marital affair, drug addiction, professional mishaps and so on. “After all, they did it to ‘both of us’” – goes the reasoning. My immediate response is always the same; No – “they” did not.

Children have the right to not be a parent’s sounding board when that parent is angry, frustrated, enraged, and emotionally compromised toward the other parent. They have the right to have two parents. Most importantly, children have the right to be children and have age appropriate discussions that do not include having to take sides with one parent against the other – even for a moment.

During the last twenty-five years of practice, my mission has been: Resolve, Rebuild, Restore. Let me discuss with you how to accomplish this goal without compromising the integrity of your children’s lives or yours. You may reach me at: (561)472-0805 or on the web at:

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